I've tried to leave my past behind, old patterns of thought and behavior. Years of life lessons that have not worked out well for me. I've tried to free myself from who I was, who I am, but a few old songs can bring it all back. I'm reminded of what it's like to think I can believe in myself, whatever that might really mean.
Put it to music, an artful narrative, to which I relate. I'm reminded of how like everything, it's so much a matter of perspective. None of the facts change, only a difference in what's valued. How we assess the importance of everything around us. Who we are, what we do, where we're trying to go in life. It's not something that can be right or wrong, per se.
Perspectives can however, be undermined by how well they achieve, at the very least, that which they might claim to value. It's a whole lot easier to tell humanity to fuck right off, when you're doing ok, going your own way. Practicalities, like taking care of our own needs, food, shelter. Not being forced to ask for help. Maybe I wouldn't need help, if America weren't so dysfunctional, but still. Taking my disability check really takes the wind out of that whole "fuck right off" thing - as would devoting most of my waking life to some shit minimum wage job, really.
What does it really mean, not to speak human, to embrace alienation, to tell society to go fuck itself, and all that entails? It means something very different, when it's spending your life living alone in a basement. It makes it so much harder to remember why I've done this to myself. To have much pride in my resolve, as I sit around feeling lonely and miserable.
Maybe early in life, I should have just engaged more in popular media, music, movies, sports, like everyone else? It is weird to think about how.. well, yeah. I could have done that, and honestly, it would have made life a whole lot easier. Not that such a trivial choices would matter as much now, but I can see how at the time, it could have meant all sorts of things turning out better for me, if I'd been more socially connected. If I'd even just attempted to join the herd. Especially now, as I can see how often people welcome the attempt itself, as a sign of good will. I can see how maybe it has been problematic.. tacitly telling everyone that everything they like sucks.
Not to make it too black and white, I'm not even talking abject negation of self identity, but I could have branched out more tactfully, without all the alienation. I could have made some effort to be normal. That does seem to be what lots of people do, balancing their individuality with wanting to be welcomed by their peers. I've been listening to so many different interpretations of my life, it's easy to lose track of what I do know. I was very clear in my rejection of any such notion, often even putting it into writing.
Maybe not an entirely rational choice. I might misjudge values, of what was worth striving for, and what was worth holding onto. There is fixation of sorts on self-identity tied into it all, in everything from aesthetic preferences to deeper ethical concerns. In an abstract sense, I can see how I probably would have been better off, doing things differently. In theory, if I were to get a do-over of my life, which I'd play like a video game, from a safe difference. Without all the complications of having to feel any of it.
Some things never change though. If I have to actually sit through sports and pop music? Oh, hell no. Fuck that. Screw you, humanity.
It occurs to me that left-wing politics might be the closest I can get, to ranting about the things that bother me about people, in a way that resonates.. with people. That gets lots of upvotes from random strangers on Facebook. That sort of thing. I'd really rather be hanging out in the woods doing shrooms and playing music, though.